How long would you hold a grudge for? How long could you hold a grudge for?
There is no definite answer of course , nor is there a right or wrong answer… It merely depends on what type of person you are.
Perhaps holding a grudge should be needed if someone holds a grudge against you. But saying that, wouldn’t that eventually make you paranoid? The constant feeling that you have to watch over your shoulder because you know someone has something against you… Surely that can’t be good for you.
In my opinion, holding a grudge against someone is not a good thing. It’s something of a poison. Eating away your kindness and goodness, and replacing those emotions with bitterness and the inability to trust and forgive. When someone hurts you, you will tend to hold on to that anger, resentment, and thoughts of revenge in your mind for a very long time. Once, you hold one grudge against someone, whose to say you won’t hold more? and more? and more? Whose to say you won’t do the act of revenge you have plotted in your mind for several months?
Imagine a water balloon slowing filling with water being poured into it. Water which symbolises a grudge, and for every drop of water is filled with anger, resent, and bitterness. Eventually that bottle will overflow from the balloon and there will be a mess to clear up… That’s when you hold the grudge, and the person you held it too gets hurt.
Now imagine the water balloon with a hose fitted into it. The water pours in and the balloon gets bigger and bigger until BANG! it explodes and there is more of a mess to clean up. This is when you hold in everything without express or releasing any emotion. But this time, you are the one who will most likely to be hurt.
It’s so easy to hold onto a grudge sometimes because when you’re hurt by someone, the first thing you will do is dwell on negative thoughts which keep becoming more negative the more you think about them. Then eventually you will be swallowed up by your sense of injustice and bitterness. If you keep a grudge then you will pay the price by bringing all your emotions into new relationships and experiences. You may become depressed or anxious. You may lack purpose and meaning to your life. You may also push away the ones who love you so dearly….and who needs that?
One way to remove a grudge is simple. Forgiveness.
“If you go back over your life and focus on the difficulties from the past, you are just bringing more difficult circumstances to You now. Let it all go, no matter what it is. Do it for you. If you hold a grudge or blame someone for something in the past, you are only harming You. You are the only one who can create the life you deserve. As you deliberately focus on what you want, as you begin to radiate good feelings, the law of attraction will respond” – The Secret, Rhonda Byrne.
Focus on good emotions, and more good emotions will be attracted on your focus.
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It saddens me to know that some people can hold grudges for so long and have so much hate in their head… In cases like that all you can do is find some compassion in yourself and understand them to your best abilities.
My rants and raves are just my opinions.
ta ta for now